Comments on: It always ends.

By: hnshn

hnshn — Thu, 22 Sep 2011 07:50:27 +0000

Ron,

That is a heartbreaker of a story. I’m glad the tatoo has been helping you through the process of getting over the situation you were in.

I hope you can find some happiness after all that you’ve been through.

By: Kammy

Kammy — Sun, 27 Feb 2011 03:31:21 +0000

I know you posted this awhile back, but I’m just reading it through one of Neil’s twits. Thanks so much for sharing. love the tattoo and I’m sorry that things turned out the way they did for you, but I believe that you did what you thought was best for you, Lucas and your ex.
The detail of him nuzzling your chest was especially poignant. A guy that’s loving being a dad is so completely cool. I gotta tell you, I’m seriously crushing on you right now:)

By: kateykins

kateykins — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 12:24:16 +0000

wow I think a lot of people are judging this guy quite harshly. of course he hasn’t just given up on that beautiful little baby just because it’s not biologically his. however, that fact created an irreconcilable rift between him and the mother. that doesn’t mean he loves that child any less. maybe you should be looking at the mother’s actions instead of his.

By: kemy

kemy — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 04:28:32 +0000

i agree with shannon: I ADMIRE YOU.

you’ve been thru pain, but did the right thing according to YOURSELF!

By: shannon

shannon — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 23:38:35 +0000

I admire you!! You are an inspiration.. your tatoo has inspired me! lifes experiences hey..lifes hard,it throws curve balls at us and i think you did the right thing.”happiness is a healthy mental attitude, a clear conscience and a heart full of love. It teaches us to see life as a weakness..an opportunity or a strength. we all have to at some point in our lives have to go through pain..anger..acceptance and growth!! and all very different at that. i am in the process of recovering from domestic abuse and am prossecuting.have been looking for a tatoo for a while..and found yours. Thank you..going to change it a bit and say… It allways ends… thats what gives ourselves value! getting it tatooed on my neck. and another one..The weak..become the STRONG!. I wish you well and happiness. shan N.Ireland

By: Julianne

Julianne — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 14:27:24 +0000

Your baby needs you, don’t you know? What a sad story!

By: john d

john d — Sun, 10 Jan 2010 05:31:12 +0000

call b.s. on this – “…07/08/09, at 10p…”

7, 8, 9, 10? come on.

By: Iron Fist » Blog Archive » ends and beginnings

Iron Fist » Blog Archive » ends and beginnings — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 02:30:40 +0000

[...] made me think back a bit to a link that Neil Gaiman posted on the Twitter, to this story about a man who has a quote from Death: The High Cost of Living tattooed on his arm. The slant on [...]

By: Keri

Keri — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 04:28:50 +0000

You don’t have to be a baby’s biological father to still be ‘daddy’. There would be nothing selfish about staying around them and being a strong, present father figure in that baby’s life.

You’d be a great father to that baby whether he’s your blood or not.

By: Bruna

Bruna — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 13:40:06 +0000

What an exciting story! It’s good to know that the world stil have some people who think the way you do, Ron. You’ll be a great dad, I’m pretty sure.
Beautiful tattoo!

Jen, congratulations for the blog. I’m here every time I can to see the tattoos, and I think your idea was great. Kisses from Brazil!

By: jenne

jenne — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 21:05:30 +0000

Hi Ron,
I loved this right away – my favorite quote from one of my all time favorite stories and writers.

I’m so sorry for the hurt and sadness that came into your life. I cannot imagine how it feels and i hope that one day you feel even a little bit better. I grew up without my bio father, and was taken care of by my stepfather. WHen I was seven years old i gave him a little statue that read “Any man can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a Daddy”. your story made me think of that statue and the man I was blessed with as my Dad. take care sir.

By: pinar

pinar — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 22:48:13 +0000

hi,
this is sad sad story…. hope that you finally find ur “new”

By: stelei

stelei — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 23:13:12 +0000

I just wanted to let you know that Neil Gaiman has linked to your story on his Twitter account. He is @neilhimself, and called it “A small, heartbreaking, literary tattoo story.”

I like how through the words inked on your skin, your favorite author came to know of you. Good luck with all new things to come. :)

By: K. R. Lindsey

K. R. Lindsey — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 18:25:47 +0000

From the poem, “Sunday Morning,” by Wallace Stevens:

“Death is the mother of Beauty; hence from her, Alone, shall come fulfillment to our dreams And our desires.”

By: Nancy Holbert

Nancy Holbert — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 15:57:01 +0000

What? He was your baby! Because you weren’t the sperm donor means nothing. Is his biological father in his life? Does he even care about the child? If you are the only father he has please don’t abandon him.
I wish I could hug you.

By: anon

anon — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 13:21:58 +0000

that baby’s gonna miss you.

my first cousin, who just turned fifteen, isn’t my uncle’s genetic child either. but he’s been her daddy all her life, and she is his daddy’s girl. it’s super sad to think that you’d give up your relationship with this baby just based on his genetic background, and forget the bond of love you two shared.

By: Shona

Shona — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 09:55:12 +0000

You’ll be a great daddy someday, even if that’s not today.

By: Lame Bill

Lame Bill — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 06:30:05 +0000

As Hervor said, in his situation, he is completely at the mercy of the mother, and there is nothing he can do about it, no matter how much he may love Lucas.

Hell, these days, I’ve seen men in similar situations sent to prison – based solely on the word of a hostile mother – just because they wanted to make sure the baby had a daddy in his or her life, regardless of the availability of the biological father.

By: medstudent

medstudent — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 04:58:11 +0000

first off, amazing tattoo,

second, if you believe it was the right thing to do in leaving, that the animosity you felt towards the mother would have never dissipated, and would have raised the child in a poisoned environment then you are truely strong of heart to be able to do whats right for the child.

third and lastly, speaking from the point of veiw of the child, which i do not believe i have seen thus far, (apologies if i missed one) i myself have grown up with a father who is not mine biologicly but in heart. the person who donated his dna to my exsistence never had any interest in my well being, but my father of my heart did. he was the one to lift me up when i fell, to teach me how to ride my bike and who held me when i cried. he took care of me by total choice, not by chance of birth, and even though he and my mother broke up and moved out and got back together many times in the last 17 years he has always stayed in touch, always been there to call, and never stopped caring for me. as the child, i feel blessed. as was stated, making a baby is easy, nuturing a small human life is something different entirely. my father of my heart taught me i was worth something and that i would only fail if i let myself fail. he helped make me who i am today.

By: amanda

amanda — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 04:53:35 +0000

Are you listed as the father on the birth certificate? Then you have every legal right, and can be forced to pay child support if you actually leave. If you really love this boy, suck up your differences with the ex, work out a joint custody arrangement, and LOVE HIM. He is more important than anything here.

I know they say “If you love them, leave them,” but that is such a lie. He needs you, so make the REALLY hard decision to stay with him. Leaving is easy. You only do it once. Staying is hard- you do it every day.